文本内容:
Dear AgonyAunt,Im in1a totalmess herehope youcan helpme2_out!Im17,and amember ofour schoolbasketball team.Im crazy3about basketball,and prettygood atit too,4which isprobably whyI was so madwhen we lostour lastmatch.We playedwell,but Ifelt theteam were5let6downby onemember,our pointguard.The pointguard isa keyplayer,but itwas likehe wasnteven onthecourt!7Disappointeddisappointby hisbehaviour,I saidall this to mybest friend.I wasjust8letting offstream really,because Iwassoangry,but thenmy friendwent andtoldeveryone else9_what Idsaid.This isso10totallytotal awkward,Im reallyangry withmy friendwhat shouldI say一to himAnd shouldI sayanything atall tomy teammate11Embarrassedembarrass andashamed,I cantconcentrate12on anything.Pleasehelp!Dear Ben,There isan oldAmerican saying,“Loose lipssink ships.This meansthat if you speaktoo muchaboutsomething,13_especiallyespecial topeople whoyou dontknow sowell,itll causeall kindsof trouble.The situationhere isso muchworse becausethe looselips^were yourbest friends.14Treatedtreathis way,youre sureto feel15hurthurt weshould always一be ableto trustthose closestto us,and ithurts evenmore whenwe findwe cantBut Ihave to say that its16partlypartyour fault,isnt itYou admitthat you were“letting offsteam”.Itisl7—understandableunderstand inthat situation,but weshould alwaysthink beforewe speak.Heres18_what you need todo.First,apologise to your teammate.If youever wanttowin anymore basketballgames andIm sureyou do!,youneedto worktogether,and thatmeans19—municatingmunicatewith eachother clearlyand resolvingconflicts.So havea chatwith yourteammate.Tell himdirectly andhonestly thatyouweretalking without20—thinkingthink.Then,talk to your friend.Friendship shouldbe one of the21greatestgreat thingsin theworld,but sometimesit canbe difficult.Again,your22strategy isclear munication.Tellyour friendyoure angrywith himfbr repeatingwhat yousaid andmaking thesituation worse,but thatyouwant tomove23on.Approached inthis way,your friendshipwill soon24—berepaired.repairThirdly,and perhapsmost25—importantlyimportant,think aboutyour ownbehaviour Dontsay toomuchwhen you9re angry!26FilledFill withanger,you tend27_tosaysaywhatever estoyourmind.This givespeople thewrong signal.Take28a deepbreath,calmdown,and alwaysremember:think first,speak later.If youfeel oneof yourteammates isntpulling their29—weight weigh,then raiseyour30concerns concernin a31___professionalprofession waywith yourteam coach.If you think aboutother peoplesfeelingsas wellas yourown,youll soonfind everythingworks32out.Good luck!Little WhiteLiesWritten writemore thantwo hundredyears ago,these linesby WalterScott remainoneofthe mostwellknown弓用excerpts Iof Scottishpoetry:一张复杂的网卬编织,Oh,what atangled webwe(燃编/When firstwe practiceto deceive(诚实是一种重要的品质)()We allknow thathonesty isan importantvalue andthat lyinglie iswrong,but whocan())honestly honestsay that theyve nevertold alie Perhaps we fortounEves fwewith theknowledge thatmost ofthelies wetell are“white lies95:little liesthat wetell to protect others from the truth.()Weve allsurely hadthe experienceof someonecooking cooka mealfor usthat wedont like.The majorityof us(我们大多数人)of coursedont tellthe truth-we lie and say that thefood isdelicious”.,(艮使)(糟Or ifa friendasks uswhat wethink oftheir newhaircut,we sayIts great!”even if|J wethink itsawful糕的).(证明是合理的)But towhat extentcan wejustify tellingwhite lieslike these()One ofthe mainreasons for telling a white lie istotry tomake othersfeel bettergood.However,whenwelieand()saythatsomeones haircutlooks good,or whenwe saythat welove ameal thatwe secretlysecret hate,are wereallyhoping toimprove thesituation forsomeone elsePerhapsweare infact lyingto protectourselves fromthe disappointment()disappoint andanger ofothers.()Another reasonfortellinga whitelieisto giveencouragement encourage.Say forexample that your friendasks you(尽管)what youthink ofhis singing.You ofcourse saythatitswonderful,despite secretlythinking thatyour catcan sing(真是的评价)better.Stop for a momentand considerthat perhapsyour friendwants somefrank meetsfrom youso that(以便)they canimprove.Or perhaps,they needto knowthat theyshould lookforadifferent hobby.(不让其他人听到坏消息).Finally,we mayalso tellawhitelie whenwe wanttoprotectothersfrombad newsIf(隐藏你的眼泪)youve hada badday,do youtell your parents aboutit,or doyou hideyour tearsand liethatyourday was(后者),“fine”If thelatter dontyouthinkyourparentswould wantto listentoyou and understand your feelingsWouldnt(尊重他们对你的关心)it bebetter torespect theirconcern foryouandask fortheir advice()(提Going goback toWalter Scottslines,we mayfind evenwhite lieshave resultswe cannotknow inadvance前).()Perhaps themeal yousaid was“delicious willbe servedserve everytime youvisit.Would yourfriend trustyour()opinion againif hefound outyou hadlied lieabout his“wonderfiil“singing Howwould youexpect othersto truly(青感)(而且,止匕夕卜),understandyouremotions Iifyouonly sharedgood newsinstead ofbad Moreoverhow()would youfeel ifyou discoveredthatthepeople closestclose toyou hadbeen hidingthetruthfrom you。